|Teachers.Net Gazette Vol.6 No.7||July 2009|
|Cover Story by Lawrence Meyers|
|Is There Such a Thing as "The Great Teacher"?|
|You can make up all the checklists you want. You can take advice from your mentors. At the end of the day, what lies behind one's teaching style is what matters. A "Great Teacher" is the right teacher at the right time, at the right place.|
|Harry & Rosemary Wong: Effective Teaching|
|Teachers Are the Difference|
|Now in her sixth year of teaching, Melissa Dunbar has helped her students achieve a pass rate of between 92% - 99% over the years, with her ESL and Economically Disadvantaged students achieving a 100% pass rate this past school year!|
|»||Writing for Educational Publishers – Inside Secrets Sue Gruber|
|»||Self-Injury In Children Leah Davies|
|»||The School of No Knocks? Todd R. Nelson|
|»||Using Imaging to Move or Change Behavior Marvin Marshall|
|»||The Busy Educator's Monthly Five Marjan Glavac|
|»||Substitute issues: What to Wear & Too Much Love Barbara Pressman|
|»||Student Travel Topics: “Staycations” Expose Students to Other Cultures & Packing for Safety Josette Bonafino|
|»||Making The Case to Parents for Broadening, Not Narrowing, The Curriculum Dorothy Rich|
|»||Red Basket & Problem Solving Forms Rick Morris|
|»||The No.1 Ladies Detective Series Writer - Interview with Alexander McCall Smith Tim Newlin|
|»||Teachers and Technology: A Field of Dreams? Matt Levinson|
|»||Resources for Teaching Students with Autism Alan Haskvitz|
|»||Applying Bloom’s Taxonomy to Questioning Techniques in the Classroom Panamalai R. Guruprasad|
|»||Tips on Maximizing High School Physics Teaching Stewart E Brekke|
|»||The Most Cost Effective Approach to Improve Teacher Education Edward Strauser|
|»||Merit Pay Problematic, Money Is Not the Ultimate Motivator for Teachers Marion Brady|
|»||Launches an Online Degree in Special Education Drexel University|
|»||Apple Seeds: Inspiring Quotes Barb Stutesman|
|»||Today Is... Daily Commemoration Ron Victoria|
|»||The Lighter Side of Teaching|
|»||Video Bytes; Assume The Position, Lost Generation, Bathtub IV, Walk On - ESPN Video, Funeral, Heal, and At Home with Mrs. Hen|
|»||Teacher Blogs Showcase|
|»||Printable - Sweet Rules for the Classroom|
|»||Featured Lessons, Wisdom from the Chat Achives, and Timely Printables Especially for July!|
|»||Getting and Keeping the Attention of 3 & 4 Year Olds|
|»||Newsdesk: Events & Opportunities for Teachers|
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The School of No Knocks?
Are we going too far with efforts to eliminate conflict between kids? Should we be sending kids to the school of No Knocks? Does it make kids expect that the playing field will always be leveled for them? Does it prepare them for the mean people who will not alter their behavior to spare their feelings. Does it give kids coping skills, or false expectations?
|by Todd R. Nelson
Regular contributor to the Gazette
July 1, 2008
I would make a lousy fifth grader today. I got along just fine with my classmates; was fairly motivated academically (math aside), but I didn’t mind being alone. Think Ferdinand the Bull under his cork tree.
But when I read a Wall Street Journal article (4/8/03) entitled “The ‘Re-Engineered’ Child,” I wondered if teachers today might sound the alarm and refer me to counseling. The re-engineering cited is, in part, a response to the bullying at the root of antisocial behavior, or even depression in later adolescence or adulthood. However, it also assumes that even quiet kids who liked to play alone, like me, need a design upgrade. Todd, version 2.0.
“Spurred partly by new research showing the lasting effects of teasing,” the article said, “a diverse mix of educators and mental-health counselors—as well as new laws in many states—are accelerating efforts to eradicate normal childhood behavior like gossiping and even giving dirty looks. They are tinkering with cliques, trying to turn loners into joiners and launching assaults on whispering and garden-variety nastiness.”
Part of me wants to respond wryly: Make childhood nicer? It’ll mean the end of the blues! You gotta suffer some of that “garden-variety nastiness” if you want to sing and moan with any authority. When I was a child, I spake as a child, calling my friends “dumb,” “idiot,” “mental case”—and worse. I’m not proud of it. But I was a child. When you’re an adult, you drop childish things—or learn to better disguise the same behavior. Some of the behavior being targeted has a valid place on the learning curve. Sure, we need to get along—but we also need to polish the borders where my rights and responsibilities meet your rights and responsibilities.
Which leads to a serious point: The difference between parents of seventh grade girls, and seventh grade girls themselves is that parents have learned the appropriate time, place, and tone for that seventh grade behavior. Name-calling, gossip, meanness, and dirty looks—they persist, if you peel back a few layers of the re-engineered adult. Mom and Dad, 2.0.
As the WSJ article points out, “isn’t seventh grade, supposed to be miserable?” Who doesn’t remember their seventh grade year as the worst year of their life? Especially the girls: It’s the year of the queen bitch. And I’d like a dollar for every seventh grade girl poison-looks-and-vicious-gossip-triangle I’ve mediated during twenty years working in schools. Boys are slightly easier. “Are you looking at me? Cut it out!” Wham. It’s over. The bruises show, but they’re better than the invisible cuts incurred in the vicissitudes of female friendships—cuts that adult women still feel.