|Teachers.Net Gazette Vol.6 No.5||May 2009|
|Cover Story by Matt Levinson|
|Schools and Facebook: Moving Too Fast,|
or Not Fast Enough?
|Schools can draw a line in the sand, with zero tolerance rules written into school handbooks, or they can shift with the changing sands of social networking and utilize social networking and Facebook to enhance teaching and learning.|
|Harry & Rosemary Wong: Effective Teaching|
|Teachers Are the Greatest Assets|
|On the first day of school, the teacher across the hall commented to me that my students are "always so good!" It's not the students; it's the procedures that have proven to work. The First Days of School helps me to manage my class, so that I can be an effective teacher.|
|»||Comedy Highlights from Room K-1! Sue Gruber|
|»||What Will Your Students Remember? Leah Davies|
|»||My Mrs. Krikorian Todd R. Nelson|
|»||Discipline Is a Liberating Word Marvin Marshall|
|»||The Busy Educator's Monthly Five Marjan Glavac|
|»||Help! Too Much Talk! Not Enough Work! Barbara Pressman|
|»||Mayan Sites and Paris Easy on the Purse Josette Bonafino|
|»||The Little Things that Count in Our Schools: Doing Something Different, Simple and Powerful Cheryl Sigmon|
|»||Teacher Morale Matters Dorothy Rich|
|»||Team Management - It’s in the Cards Rick Morris|
|»||Teaching and Learning for the 21st Century Hal Portner|
|»||The Document Camera: A Better Way to Present! Joe Frisk|
|»||Need a Teaching Job? Here’s Where to Find One Alan Haskvitz|
|»||Make Twitter an Ally in the Classroom! Alan Haskvitz|
|»||Teaching Is... Bill Page|
|»||Celebrating True Heroes Graysen Walles|
|»||Digital Pens & Touch-Screens Tim Newlin|
|»||12 Ways to Improve and Enhance Your Paraprofessional- Teacher Experience Susan Fitzell|
|»||May 2009 Writing Prompts James Wayne|
|»||Using Photographs To Inspire Writing VII Hank Kellner|
|»||How to Increase the Number of Physics and Chemistry Majors Stewart E. Brekke|
|»||Bibliotherapy Booklist for Elementary Students Lisa Bundrick|
|»||8 Ways to Make Math Magical at School Steve Sherman|
|»||5 Brainteasers Steve Sherman|
|»||What Will You Do For Shy Kids? Marjie Braun Knudsen|
|»||Apple Seeds: Inspiring Quotes Barb Stutesman|
|»||Today Is... Daily Commemoration Ron Victoria|
|»||The Lighter Side of Teaching|
|»||Photo Tour: 3rd Grade Classroom|
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|»||Carol Goodrow's Kids Running Printables|
|»||Dolch word activities, end of first grade test, first grade memory book, map and geography lessons for all levels, IEP progress, and graduation ceremonies songs|
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What Will You Do For Shy Kids?
Social anxiety isn’t as simple as just being shy; it can be emotionally and academically paralyzing, even for children. The author writes about her daughter’s struggle and victory over this debilitating problem.
|by Marjie Braun Knudsen
BRAVE: Be Ready and Victory's Easy, A Story About Social Anxiety
May 1, 2009
They're quiet, don't get into trouble, and can become invisible if you let them. They don't want to participate in activities, go to school, or even birthday parties.
This was my daughter. Life was more of a challenge for her. The everyday tasks of interacting with peers, and talking in class were overwhelming and sometimes painful. Changes in routine, or new situations were especially difficult.
There were several times over the years that she had begged me to Home school her. I knew if I went down that route, it would be the point of no return for her to feel independent. For her, home schooling would have been giving up. It would have been easy to let her slide by through life as the invisible child... the most difficult thing in the world was to not let her.
When, by fifth grade, things did not get better, I realized that if I wanted my daughter to have a chance at life, I needed to get her some help. Also, as a parent, I needed to learn how I could help her through those difficult moments. This was the turning point for my daughter, to decide to get help, instead of just letting time slide by.
I took her to see a psychologist. It was Jenne R. Henderson, Ph.D. who helped my daughter finally start understanding about the anxiety she was experiencing. She helped her to not feel quite so 'frozen' in fear about experiences and issues that would come up in her life. My daughter learned that it takes her more time than others to get used to new things, that it's just a part of who she is, and now that she knows that about herself she can plan for it, so she can be successful at anything she might encounter.
She also learned that being prepared ahead of time could help alleviate her anxiety, and also that exposure to those situations, although uncomfortable, would help. It was the start of the long process of her growing and learning about the way she is, and what she needs to do to help herself through her feelings.
When my daughter was younger, I purchased many books about social anxiety and shy children, although could never find a school-age book that would help her to understand someone else going through the same feelings. I wanted a story-based book on the issue that would be engaging and entertaining, something that would be memorable. I could not find that book. When mentioning this to Dr. Henderson, years later, she suggested we write one.
The message of being prepared ahead of time echoed throughout the years of the learning process about social anxiety. The book BRAVE: Be Ready and Victory's Easy, A Story About Social Anxiety, was written to include that message in the format of an entertaining chapter book. The title and message of the book uses a memorable acronym, BRAVE, which stands for 'be ready and victory's easy' because with social anxiety it helps to not only be ready but also to be brave.
It worked for my daughter. She ended up taking advanced courses in high school, was a cheerleader, and had a part in the high school musical. She is now enrolled at a large university, and I look back over the years at all the turning points and think... what if I didn't keep trying? She has told me over and over that she is glad that I never gave up.
My husband and I are constantly amazed at how far she has come. It was so important throughout the years for us to never give up, and take it a step at a time. We see that so clearly now, even though it was so difficult at the time.
It would have been so easy to let her stay invisible.