|Teachers.Net Gazette Vol.6 No.6||June 2009|
|Cover Story by Graysen Walles|
|Teaching – The Power of Influence|
|The impact of teaching is clear, and the influence of the profession is immeasurable. All it takes is one moment, one situation, one discussion to turn the life of a young learner.|
|Harry & Rosemary Wong: Effective Teaching|
|Nine Year Summary of Articles, 2000 to 2009|
|On April 26, 2009, President Obama hosted the four 2009 finalists for America’s top national teaching honor, the National Teacher of the Year award. Alex Kajitani, who teaches mathematics at Mission Middle School in the Escondido Union (Elementary) School District in San Diego County was one of the four finalists.|
|»||The Three R’s for Summer— Rest, Relax and Recharge! Sue Gruber|
|»||Buddy Programs for Elementary Schools Leah Davies|
|»||Moving to September Todd R. Nelson|
|»||Ronald Reagan and the Art of Influence Marvin Marshall|
|»||The Busy Educator's Monthly Five Marjan Glavac|
|»||Substitute issues: Bathroom Passes & Anger Management Barbara Pressman|
|»||Preparing Students for Travel: Films and Immunizations Josette Bonafino|
|»||A Message to Share with Parents about Summer Learning Dorothy Rich|
|»||Classroom Clean-Up and Clay in a Can Rick Morris|
|»||Schools and Filters: Ice Age, the Meltdown Matt Levinson|
|»||Effort: It Can be Taught! Deborah Granger|
|»||Homework: Damned if you do, and if you don’t Alan Haskvitz|
|»||Parents Are Recruits, Teachers Are Responsible, Kids Are Victims, and Schools Are Culpable For At-Risk Problems Bill Page|
|»||12 Ways to Stop Conflict in its Tracks! Susan Fitzell|
|»||Using Photographs To Inspire Writing VIII Hank Kellner|
|»||The Writing on the Wall Tim Newlin|
|»||More Brain Teasers Steve Sherman|
|»||Teacher of Facts - and of Life Rachelle Ann A. Abad|
|»||Grant Writing Tips Kimberly McCloud|
|»||Bald is Beautiful! Teachers, Students Lose Locks to Fight Childhood Cancer David Peter Marchesseault|
|»||Apple Seeds: Inspiring Quotes Barb Stutesman|
|»||Today Is... Daily Commemoration Ron Victoria|
|»||The Lighter Side of Teaching|
|»||Video Bytes; Literacy Empowers (Illiteracy Awareness), The Underground Railroad, Wikis in Plain English - CommonCraft tutorial, Twitter in Plain English – a CommonCraft tutorial, Naturally 7 music group on Tavis Smiley Show, Tour the International Space Station!|
|»||Teacher Blogs Showcase|
|»||Printable - Ice Cream in a Baggie Recipe|
|»||Featured Lessons, Wisdom from the Chat Achives, and Timely Printables Especially for June!|
|»||What Is A Document Camera? What Does It Do?|
|»||Newsdesk: Events & Opportunities for Teachers|
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Ronald Reagan and the Art of Influence
How to influence and improve relationships
|by Dr. Marvin Marshall
Regular contributor to the Gazette
June 1, 2009
When you are about to engage in a disagreement, try the following:
Say, "I don't want to win; I just want to understand what you are saying. My objective is to clarify, not influence.
At the worst you have clarified. At the best you have minimized any disagreement.
In any event, it's good to know where you agree and where you differ.
The key is to state at the outset that your goal is not to win, but to clarify.
Clarity is not only more important than agreement, it often leads to influence itself.
Here is an example that changed a situation from "telling" and attempting to influence to asking a reflective question that—through clarification—influenced the world.
The events occurred on November 20, 1985 at Fleur d'Eau, Geneva, Switzerland, during the Geneva Summit meeting between the U.S. President, Ronald Reagan, and the USSR General Secretary, Mikhail Gorbachev. Gorbachev accused Reagan of lecturing him. Reagan responded that he (Reagan) had been misinterpreted.
Later that afternoon, Reagan asked Gorbachev (and just their interpreters) to go on a short walk to the cabin by the lake. During the conversation the president asked the following question to the general secretary, “If the United States were to be attacked by something from outer space, would the U.S.S.R. come to the rescue of the United States?”
Gorbachev responded, "Of course."
Reagan responded, "Me, too," meaning that it would be the same if the situation were to be reversed.
The question asked and the resulting responses immediately changed the relationship between the two world leaders and the beginning of the end to the "cold war."
To review, telling or lecturing (versus sharing) were reduced by asking a brilliant, reflective, and creative question. This led to clarification that influenced, improved relationships, and established a fresh mindset.
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